I left the workforce to raise my daughters, I am sure like a lot of other moms or dads. I put my career on hold to watch my girls roll for the first time, crawl, walk and talk. I wanted to witness first hand my children grow. Staying at home is not an easy gig, it’s not all peaches and cream! I enjoy it very much but some days going to work would be a lot easier. I really missed adult communication and the mental challenge you get from work. I don’t want to say that I was bored but I was, therefore, I sought out ways to challenge myself!
Why I Went Back?
I am a person that thrives off of stress and I thrive off being challenged. Once I left the workforce I found that I truly missed the mental benefit of working. I was determined to give myself more. I took the opportunity to use my spare time as a stay at home mom to finish my educational goals. I started working on my bachelors straight after high school. I got married at a young age and to the wrong person who could talk me out of everything. I wanted so badly to be a doctor, I could be in my fellowship now if I wouldn’t have married him or if I could stick up for myself. Either way, I ended up starting my bachelors of business. It took a total of 8 years to complete this goal of mine.
Even though I stay home with my girls, this does not mean I gave up on the things in life that I set forth to accomplish. Finishing my undergrad and completing my grad program were top on my list. One month after my 2nd daughter was born, I finished my undergrad and then started my grad program several months later.
With the full intentions of returning to the workforce, I wanted to show my future employer that I can accept a challenge, that I can multitask and succeed at everything I set forth to do. I did not just take the opportunity to just stay home with my daughters, I found the opportunity to work on myself too, and you can too!
I would only suggest going to school online if you can be dedicated and focused enough to meet all assignment deadlines. The curriculum is different when you attend an online school. Were you not a good test taker? Did you have a hard time studying? These issues are what prevented me from being successful at a traditional university. I attended Eastern New Mexico University, where I had to memorize words in a book, then answer multiple choice questions in an exam. I couldn’t handle this, I would get frustrated an upset with myself. This started the search for something new and different. What I found with online schools is the differences in curriculum.
I now attend Southern New Hampshire University and I attended Trident University International for my undergrad. So far, both the style of these universities are similar. I am more successful at these schools because I am able to apply my knowledge in the form of an essay. No memorizing words in a book, rather researching current events and applying them to information discussed in class. No tests or exams, just because you can memorize something in a book does not mean that you actually learned the context and will keep it. When you are able to write about your learnings, then apply it to an event, you are more likely to keep that information with you for a longer period of time.
If this sounds like something that speaks to you, then research online schools. This leads me to the next topic
But… No One Has Heard of My School!
Oh, hodge podge! Seriously, earning your college degree online is the thing of the future. Traditional colleges and universities are very expensive. Online schools offer convenience. Many fear that hiring managers will be put off by where you attended college. The fact of the matter is, do your research. You want to find an online college that is well-known. For instance, University of Phoenix. My sister obtained her bachelors from there and she has nothing bad to say. I go to Southern New Hampshire University and I absolutely love it. These are two very well-known institutions. They are full accredited, so this is something you will want to check for. Also, read reviews about the university. Contact an admissions advisor and interview them. You want to enroll at a school that will help benefit you and help you succeed.
Finding The Time
I am not going to lie… finding the time to focus on school is very challenging when you have children at home. Thankfully, if you are determined to go back to school then you will find the time.
I work on school in the morning, I wake up two hours before my daughters. I am a morning person, so I have zero problems waking up at 6AM and reading textbooks for write an essay. For me, my creative wheels are turning at the beginning of the day. I would suggest analyzing your day to uncover small blocks of time that will allow you 30 minutes at a time to work on school. Then work on it, dedicate time out of your day to learn something new. Once you put your children to bed, work on school.
Excuses are what prevent you from achieving goals you set for yourself!
If you have the ability; get help. Have a relative or baby sitter come over and watch your children for a couple of hours so you can get out of the house and work on yourself. You will benefit greatly from alone time and be a better parent for focusing on you!
One of My Favorite Sayings
Excuses are like assholes, everybody has one!
If you have goals, or you want to fulfil the dream of go back to school; then find the time to do it! No excuses, figure it out. I know you can!