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We have all heard about body shaming. You know, the negative and hurtful comments that get made to someone based on their body or size. We see it all over the media, someone got hurt because someone said something about someone being fat or people being shamed for being too skinny. Goodness, when does this end? It wont, it will never end this is the world we live in. What is this teaching our children?
Our children get the idea of picking on someone for their body from somewhere and many times it is not from social media. What are you doing around your child? Are you making comments about other moms? Are you constantly complaining about your own body? So, when our kids get to school, they can be ridiculed for their body? Because they learned to act this way from somewhere. You know what I see a lot is moms shaming other moms. You are judging other mothers on so many principles that are not fair nor ethical or moral. We need to stop, we are teaching our children that it is alright to shame other people.
I am one to admit that I have mom shamed before. I have thought to myself, how could someone let themselves go after kids. Or, why are you not disciplining your child who just bit mine. Its constant judging, I feel like it was bred into our systems to judge. It is a crazy and unjust world we live in and it is clearly up to us to fix it.
Free The Boob Movement!
This is a very popular topic. It is clearly a factor that means a lot to a lot of people. Moms should have the right to breastfeed in public without a cover and you are more than in your right to do that. Others think they need to cover that up, because they don’t want to see it. I understand I get it, I actually get it from both ends of the spectrum. I am not going to sit here and say you should breastfeed your child in a certain place or way.
Personally, I chose to use a cover when I breastfed; my reason being was simple, I believe my breasts are for my husband and obviously my babies eyes only. felt uncomfortable breastfeeding around other people. Which is fine, breastfeeding in public with no cover is also fine. Do what you will or what you want. But, don’t sit here and judge other moms who prefer to use a cover and don’t judge the moms that whip it all out. They are not you and you are not them. Stop shamming each other!
If you are looking for a great nursing cover, this is the one I bought. It has a strap that goes behind your back and you can tighten to prevent side views!
Yes, I Have a Backpack Leash For My Toddler!
Heck yes I put that backpack on my kid. Its my prerogative to do so, but I am sick of getting looks of disgust from other moms. Look at here, don’t you sit here and judge me when you didn’t even bother to ask me why I do it. Moms immediately judge other moms parenting skills. here are my reasons for that leash
- My child refuses to hold my hand, it just does not happen. I would rather not have to fight with her every time we are out. This provides her the ability to be independent but also for me to keep her safe.
- I ran away from my mother as a child. My mom could tell you exactly how that felt to this day. Can you imagine? You don’t have your eyes on your child at every single moment so don’t for a minute think you do because you don’t. I am scared this could happen to me so I am going to prevent it the best I can.
- My KID IS NOT A DOG NOR DO I TREAT HER LIKE ONE. Ugh I hate this one, you get that stupid judgmental look like you have a dog on a leash. I do not pop the leash, I do not pull her back or hold her back on it. If I need to correct something then I grab her arm or hand and explain the importance of staying close or explain the inappropriate behavior. I want my child to be independent but I use this leash as a great opportunity to teach her the safe bounds to stay in.
Don’t judge other moms who use one of these. You have no idea their reasons and they do not think of their child as a pet so shut up and let them parent their children the way they want or feel is safe and needed. Not all children are like yours sweetheart.
If you think a backpack leash would be a great learning tool for you and your child, I have this one and my daughter loves it!
Moms judge other moms bodies so bad. You are going to judge an active mom, that is out there running and playing with her children, that has a flat stomach and is skinny. You skinny mom, will judge a larger mom and think she is obese and she let herself go or she doesn’t feel the need to be fit anymore. It’s so annoying and so judgmental of you. Kind of childish actually.
I am skinny, I have zero stretch marks, I had a flat stomach 2 weeks after having my kids, I only gained 30 pounds with each of my kids and lost all but 5 before leaving the hospital but so what. I did not try for that, it is just how it happened for me, I may be lucky, sure whatever. There are moms that gain 70 pounds per kid and may never get back to their prepregnancy weight or work their butts off to get fit. There are moms that want to be fit and active to play with their kids but maybe they lack the motivation or support to do that.
Your proud of your stretch marks? You think they are your tiger stripes right, you earned those. Does that make you a better mom than those who want those suckers gone like yesterday? Heck no, our stretch marks or feelings towards them, does not define the kind of mom we are. Get over yourself, you either want them or you don’t. I would have had them laser removed if I got them. It doesn’t mean I don’t love my children. Just, stop judging other moms!
You Think They Are Handling That Tantrum Wrong?
Who gave you the right to judge other moms? Don’t sit here and think for one second that your child has not flipped the heck out at Target alright. I can tell you how that mom feels: she is embarrassed, she is stressed, she wants to cry and kick and scream herself, she is having a bad day and simply the kid doesn’t freaking care. Throw the mom a bone alright. You have no clue what is she is going through, so stop pretending you do.
Not all situations should be handled the way you think they should. That mom is thinking to herself: how can I discipline my child without some other mom freaking out and yelling child abuse. Oh but you can sit there and think she may not be handling it right. Well if we get judged for either address it or not addressing it then there is no possible way to win that battle. So, mind your own dang business and stop getting into others!
Money Does Not Make You a Better Parent!
I see moms judging other moms based on the clothes their kids wear, the stroller or car seat they have, the diaper bag. You want to know why you kids are judging others and there are bullies in school? It’s because you taught them that. Just because another mom doesn’t have the most expensive stroller or their kid does not wear expensive stuff, it does not mean their children are not as loved as yours. How awful of you to judge someone based on what they are providing their children. If a child has clothes on their backs, a warm bed, food and lots of love, then there is nothing wrong with them.
So, You Do Know Your Kids Are Watching Right?
Are you aware that our children learn a lot from you, that you lead by example. The example you are setting about mom shaming is the wrong message. Your children are always watching, they pick up on body language and learn to treat other people as you do. You should be teaching them to accept all, teach them to not judge and understand compassion. Teach them to be good and helpful people. And you moms, stop being so judgmental of other moms, it’s really annoying! Next time you see a mom with a toddler freaking out, give her a nod of acceptance or a nod of you are doing a good job. Make mom friends with everyone, it increases your support group and encourages your child to accept everyone as a friend.