I cannot just sit here and say having two kids under the age of two is easy. It’s not a piece of cake but I will say it is not as bad as what I had chucked up in my head. My daughters are 18 months to the day apart. I have learned so much and I just simply want to share with you challenges of two under two and how you can make it easier.
I Love My Two Under Two
I read a ton of blogs about baby bundling, baby bunching, two under two, etc. My reasoning for having my children close together is because I am a bundled baby of 3 girls. The oldest and middle child are 13 months apart, by the way, breastfeeding is not an effective form of birth control! the distance between the middle and myself is 15 months! If you ask my mother she would not have done it any other way!
It is absolute joy to watch my daughters together. Right now, because one is a baby and the other is now 2, it seems that they are years apart but my 8 month old is developing so fast that they are now able to play together. That reason alone will melt your heart to see your kids play and interact together! This post is not about the great things, this post is about the more challenging factors of bundled children and how you can make it easier!
Starting from the beginning, here we go!
- Prepping Toddler For Arrival! This part is actually quite easy because they are not really old enough to truly understand what is going on! Head over to my article about prepping your toddler for some great pieces of advice!
- Breastfeeding Baby While Entertaining Toddler! While your breastfeeding your baby, occupy your toddler with a quiet box or books. A quiet box is something you bring out only during breastfeeding for your toddler and it is filled with quiet activities! Our favorite book during this time was: On the Night You Were Born! So cute!
- Outings! It was not necessary how to handle both in an outing, it was more like how do you handle this logistically! Tip: Park by the cart coral, put car seat in basket of cart and then get the toddler for the seat! I pack stuff around the car seat or get a hand basket to put on the rack under the cart! When the baby is older, I put Jojo in the seat and Sissy in the carts basket! It is challenging to prevent her from throwing stuff out of the cart so keep the basket under the cart for that reason!
- Get a Double Stroller! I use the Contours Elite! I love it and it holds both of my daughters so well! It comes with both seats and an adapter for the car seat, plus the basket is huge! I prefer tandem because I knew it would be easier to maneuver through stores! Side by Sides are great but they can be difficult to get through doors and move around stores!
- Both Kids Crying at the Same Time! Sometimes I hear crying babies when they are peacefully sleeping! When both kids are crying, you should always address the one with the most important issue. Such as baby is hungry, baby has dirty diaper, sibling hit baby with a toy, etc. This happens but calm the baby in these instances or if the toddler got hurt, toddler is hungry, etc. Then address your toddler first!
- When They are Both Mobile! Oh lord, we just got real in my house! Both kids are on the move and typically not in the same direction! First of all, gates are awesome! Safety proof your home and let them explore!
- Feeding Time! So when your kids are both on solid foods!! Forget eating yourself! You barely have time for that as it is! Feed both at the same time if you can swing it! Turn off the TV to keep your toddler engaged in eating and less engaged with Minnie Mouse, when they are finished then find the time to eat! You need it for energy!
- Diaper Duty! This really is not that big of deal! Having two kids in diapers would not prevent me from bundling my kids! The only challenge here is having to buy double diapers! That gets expensive but sign up for Mom Prime and get the subscription to get discounts!
It’s Not Bad, I Promise!
If you are working on bundled babies and your kind of scarred, you’re not alone, I was too but I will sit here and tell you that you do not have to be scared! Its fun, it seriously is so great! I love every moment of it. I am able to be a full-time graduate student, stay at home mom and blogger at the same time! You will figure everything out, it’s called natural ability to parent! You’ve got this mom!!!
If you have any more tips or challenges that you overcame with having bundled babies then let me know in the comments below. I would love to add it to the post that way we, together, can help other moms make this a beautiful time of their life!