When I first proposed the idea to my love of having two under two, we were on vacation in Florida with our 7-month-old daughter Sis. My husband looked at me like I was out of my mind! He and his brother are 5 years apart, so for him, the distance between kids was no big deal at all.
I am 1 of 3 girls, the distance between the oldest and middle child are only 13 months and from the middle to myself (The baby!!), would only be 15 months. How in the heck did my mom do that right? I will tell you, her secret was to grocery shop on Wednesdays because that was when the store was packed with old ladies and old ladies love babies. She was able to get her shopping done while these women kept us happy! Good thinking mom!
I needed to sell my love, on the idea that bundling babies was a great idea! I did this by laying out my points with excellent reasons! My points were:
- Siblings close in age are great: Having sisters so close in age was a blessing. We played with the same toys, helped each other through childhood developmental milestones and we grew to be best friends. Granted, we did fight and bicker back and forth, but please tell me, what kids don’t argue with each other. No matter how far apart your kids are, they will fight and bicker. It’s guaranteed!
- The baby-making phase of our lives would be over faster! I am not a good pregnant woman, I hated it actually. Is it a beautiful thing? Well yes of course, but it is not for me! I wanted to be done with that as soon as possible.
- Less prep for our first daughter: When your child is too young to understand that there would be another member of the family, there is a lot less preparing, less jealousy and an easier transition for everyone!
My Loves Response
“But won’t this be more difficult for us? Two under two means, double the diapers, two babies that can’t fully communicate their needs, and more stress!”
Why, love, what do you mean difficult? OF COURSE, IT WILL BE! No one ever said raising babies was easy. Changing two babies with diapers; I already change one so what’s the big deal? I would be a diaper changing pro! Sis was getting better at communicating her needs and not much longer she would be saying words and putting phrases together! No big deal!
When discussing this topic with your significant other, it is important to lay out all pro’s and cons. Look into the budget, as having two children under two tends to be more costly. Look at what kind of help you have to lend a hand when needed; whether that be family or friends, use them! There are so many factors to think about, but the main aspect to understand is that your heart IS definitely large enough to love another baby!
In the end, my love agreed with me and 2 months later we were pregnant with our daughter Jojo
When you have two under two, strangers tend to be more comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings! Just because you see a pregnant woman and a young baby or toddler, or two small babies close in age; does not mean you can just walk up to and say “oh my, you’re going to have your hands full!” or “how old is she?”, then proceed to look at their belly with raised eyebrows and a smirk. Look, crazy people, keep your opinions to yourself. Unsolicited comments are absolutely not necessary people!
Our girls are 18 months to the day apart! I would not change this fabulous life for anything!
Check out another great article: 10 Tips to Prepare Your Toddler For a New Baby; This contains great tips on prepping for the 2nd baby and welcoming them home!
Check out this free kindle book on Amazon for a great read on two under two: Parenting in Joyful Chaos: Raising
For more great information, check out Busy Toddler; this is a wonderful article that explains how two under two is truly a blessing!
Please comment below and let me know what was included when you were deciding to have two babies under two! Or let me know why you may have chosen not to bundle!